Who Was She?

Who exactly was the Proverbs 31 Woman?

In all of the research that I did I was unable to come up with exactly who she was. What is known is that she was the mother of King Lemuel; he was not known as one of the Kings of Israel or Judah. There are some Theologians that propose that he was actually King Solomon and the words given to him were from his Mother Bathsheeba. Regardless of who she was we know that she was included in the Proverbs because it was God's will to give us wives a model of what a Godly wife looks like.

I think the very first thing that any woman in a Christian marriage needs to understand that her submission is actually to the Lord. He is the head of the man as Ephesians 5:22 says "Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior." I know this goes so against what our society has taught us, we are aliens in this world and we are not to live as the world tells us to. The worldy ways are in direct opposition to God's word; I, like everyone else struggles (sometimes on daily basis) to control the events in my home. I have made impulsive decisions that have caused much strife and we as women are to be the heart of our homes. My desire is to please my God and create an atmosphere where serenity lingers!

Precious friend, God created us to help our husbands. Gen 2:18 Then the Lord said "It is not good for the man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him." How on earth do we do this if we first do not realize the value that God places on us?

Do you know that you are a Princess? Your father is the King of Kings!
Do you know that you are a co-heir with Christ? Romans 8:17
Did you know that His thoughts toward you are many and wonderful? Psalm 40:5
Did you know that He is thinking of you and giving to you while you sleep? Psalm 127:2
Did you know that His loving kindness towards you is as high as the heavens are above the earth? Psalm 103:11
Did you know that you are salt of the earth and light of the world? Matthew 5:13-14
Did you know that you are a holy partaker of a heavenly calling? Hebrews 3:1
Did you know that God loved you so much that He sacrificed His own son so that you could have a relationship with Him?
These are but a few! I encourage you to seek the Scriptures for yourself to see how He feels for you dear one.


Understanding that we are valued by the Lord; how do we become like her??? The first practical step I am going to give us is....

• Prayer, prayer and more prayer. I am talking about communicating with our Lord, talking with Him while we are driving, doing laundry, cleaning the house, taking a shower, spending private time with Him. How much time do we devote to sit in His presence and talk with Him? His desire is for relationship with us, relationships require communication.
• Meditation...being silent. Ladies, that is a hard one for me. Sometimes my meditation time is only for five minutes. It is so important to sit and "be" and listen to what He is telling us. Communication is talking and listening.
  

I am going to leave you for now, I pray that you will have the willingness to become like her and that you will allow Him to prune those things that prohibit your growth.

A Wife of Noble Character

Awhile back my husband told me that if I did not stop "directing the show" we may not end up where the Lord wants to take us. I was silent after he said that, yes, I, Carla did not say anything. His words really spoke to my heart. Since Jim and I had been married I found myself following his lead and then sometimes dragging him to follow mine. I was okay to follow as long as I agreed with him...I was not trusting my husband to make Godly decisions, bottom line was "I was not trusting God." I know that is not how God planned marriage to be. I was failing miserably in this area of my life...teaching our daughter that submission to her husband is not important. Oh no...there it is, the big S word! Hold on to your hats ladies, submission means freedom! Yes, freedom. It means we stop living our lives as the world says that we should live them and follow God's instructions for us. How do we go wrong with following Him? He created us; I think He knows a little bit about how we think!
I am about to embark on a series of blog posts on the Proverbs 31 Woman along with practical ways that we can become her. We live in a society that tells us lies about who we are to be as women. I think it's time we stop listening and turn our hearts to the heart of the Proverbs 31 Woman and ask the Lord to help us become more like her. After all, she is in the Scriptures for a reason.
Beautiful women...take a few moments and read the following Scriptures. I am excited to begin our journey together!

Proverbs 31:10-31

¹⁰ ^c]">[c] A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.

¹¹ Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.

¹² She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.

¹³ She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.

¹⁴ She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.

¹⁵ She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.

¹⁶ She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

¹⁷ She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.

¹⁸ She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.

¹⁹ In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

²⁰ She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.

²¹ When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.

²² She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

²³ Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

²⁴ She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.

²⁵ She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.

²⁶ She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

²⁷ She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.

²⁸ Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:

²⁹ "Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all."

³⁰ Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

³¹ Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.